Two Views ~ Friday 17 December 2021

Hello, we hope you have all had a good week? Today we are sharing a quote from Maya Angelou.

“Information helps you to see that you’re not alone. That there’s somebody in Mississippi and somebody in Tokyo who all have wept, who’ve all longed and lost, who’ve all been happy. So the library helps you to see, not only that you are not alone, but that you’re not really any different from everyone else.”

Love to you all, Tim and Jane. X

My husband’s cat is the devil incarnate and I promise, I am not exaggerating. If I could get anywhere near this monster and part his fur, I am convinced I would find 666 somewhere on him. All jokes aside, my husband loves him. Our loathing for each other (the cat and me) is mutual and he has taken to peeing in my slippers. My husband finds this funny! Help??? MM, Birmingham

Tim: Hide the slippers or stop wearing slippers. Or, if that doesn’t work, pee in the cat’s bed.

Jane: Hello MM, you may be relieved to know that I talked Tim out of his initial suggestion to your challenging situation and the above is his second suggestion. On a practical note, have you taken the cat to the vet to have his waterworks checked out? I feel that battle lines have been drawn and cats being instinctive souls, he knows you don’t like him. I am assuming you love your husband, so you all need to find a way to get along under the same roof. Buy the cat some treats or toys and hide your slippers. It’s like you are dealing with a naughty child, so loving bribery and managing his access to things that wind you up are imperative. Hugs with love. X

Our daughter has a new boyfriend, and we are not keen on him. He’s standoffish, difficult, and not the easiest chap to get along with. She wants to invite him to stay over at Christmas and we’re struggling to give her an answer. We have brought her up to make her own choices and yet, we are now being called to honour that in our own home. She lives away at college, and we are always delighted when she chooses to stay with us during her holidays. My wife and I are going back and forth wrestling with this, so can you offer any insight? JK, Boston

Tim: Give him a chance, you never know. Your daughter will appreciate and remember your decision even when their relationship is long gone.

Jane: Hello JK, I am going to shoot from the hip and hopefully, that will help you both reach a decision soon. Your relationship with your daughter is for life and her boyfriend may not last. There could be a reason as to why he is withdrawn, but if this is his true character, then the quicker they spend more time together, the sooner it will naturally end. Bite the bullet, lovely, and make him welcome. If you show any kind of disapproval, she may not confide in you later when she needs to talk about any difficulties they are having, and she may dig her heels in and date him for longer. There could be a valuable experience for them both nestled in this. Hugs with love. X

Please feel free to send your questions to and we wish you all a lovely week to come.

Tim & Jane. X

24 thoughts on “Two Views ~ Friday 17 December 2021”

  1. Cats are so good at expressing their disapproval! Parents too. Excellent advice, all around! (Well, except for the peeing in the cat’s bed part. 😆 )

    1. I am chuckling at your response, Debbie. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I am relieved that I edited Tim’s first comment on the cat, with his agreement of course. 😉

  2. Wisdom especially the Mother and daughter relationship one Jane… And a BIG thank you dear friend… The mailman brought me a lovely surprise… <3 Mega Hugs for a Joyous weekend.. <3

  3. I love the quote and agree to hide the slippers. 🙂 I also agree about welcoming the boyfriend. It only takes one little disapproval and the relationship between parents and daughter could be affected. Great advice! Love and hugs, Jane! xo

    1. You are kind, Lauren. Thank you. Yes, a small seed can incubate and grow to become a massive thing to deal with later. Huge hugs and much love flowing to you both. <3 xXx <3

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