Hello to you all and we hope you have had a good week? It is wet and windy here and there are lots of leaves on the ground. The sky is full of angel feathered clouds and groups of wheeling birds, with a crispness in the air signalling change. Our postbag is full of questions around change and we’re sharing two and privately replying to the rest. Tim & Jane. X
My husband and I have been married for just over three years. He has been offered a transfer to Australia with the company he works for. My family and I are close, and our lives are here. I do not want to go but he is so excited I don’t know how to tell him. PH, Manchester
Tim: Go out there and try it together. If it doesn’t suit you, then at least you’ve tried. If you two don’t try you both may regret it forever. No one enjoys living with regret.
Jane: Hello PH, after the last few years dealing with the pandemic this must feel like too much of a change for you, which is understandable. We naturally fear change, yet it is what forms the foundation of life. Your lives together are an adventure, and this could be a wonderful chapter for you both. You are an ‘us’, and a gentle conversation where you share that you feel afraid about this change will support you both and open up communication on choices that nurture your ‘us’. X
I have been working for my best friend in his company since we left school. The last few years have shown me that I need to be doing something completely different and I have been given the chance to explore my options. I don’t want to hurt him by leaving after all this time. GB, Bristol
Tim: Tell your friend. Cards on the table. Explain your position. Discuss it together.
Jane: Hello GB, a tough decision for you to make yet you can’t square a circle, my lovely. Everything we do in this life springs from two places, one of fear and one of love. The bonds of love you have both nurtured over the years will stand you in good stead now. Talk to him, as listening to your heart’s call and making choices for you, will deepen your friendship and create space for him to support you. Be true to yourself and what you need to do. Love allows each of us to be ourselves. Hugs. X
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Tim & Jane. X