Two Views ~ Friday 22nd October 2021

Hello to you all and we hope you have had a good week? It is wet and windy here and there are lots of leaves on the ground. The sky is full of angel feathered clouds and groups of wheeling birds, with a crispness in the air signalling change. Our postbag is full of questions around change and we’re sharing two and privately replying to the rest. Tim & Jane. X

My husband and I have been married for just over three years. He has been offered a transfer to Australia with the company he works for. My family and I are close, and our lives are here. I do not want to go but he is so excited I don’t know how to tell him. PH, Manchester

Tim: Go out there and try it together. If it doesn’t suit you, then at least you’ve tried. If you two don’t try you both may regret it forever. No one enjoys living with regret.

Jane: Hello PH, after the last few years dealing with the pandemic this must feel like too much of a change for you, which is understandable. We naturally fear change, yet it is what forms the foundation of life. Your lives together are an adventure, and this could be a wonderful chapter for you both. You are an ‘us’, and a gentle conversation where you share that you feel afraid about this change will support you both and open up communication on choices that nurture your ‘us’. X

I have been working for my best friend in his company since we left school. The last few years have shown me that I need to be doing something completely different and I have been given the chance to explore my options. I don’t want to hurt him by leaving after all this time. GB, Bristol

Tim: Tell your friend. Cards on the table. Explain your position. Discuss it together.

Jane: Hello GB, a tough decision for you to make yet you can’t square a circle, my lovely. Everything we do in this life springs from two places, one of fear and one of love. The bonds of love you have both nurtured over the years will stand you in good stead now. Talk to him, as listening to your heart’s call and making choices for you, will deepen your friendship and create space for him to support you. Be true to yourself and what you need to do. Love allows each of us to be ourselves. Hugs. X

Please feel free to send your questions to and we wish you all a lovely week to come.

Tim & Jane. X

14 thoughts on “Two Views ~ Friday 22nd October 2021”

  1. Wonderful advice from both of you. I agree, see what Australia is like, it could be that the husband doesn’t like it there either. And as for the friends, at some point you need to do things for yourself, and not always in support of someone else’s dream….

  2. I love the way you and Tim both offer good ideas, each in your own respective ways, and your wonderful elaborations my Lovely Jane. <3 xoxox

  3. Wonderful advice from both of you, Jane. I can empathize with the first person’s question because where we live now involved moving away from my family (22 years ago). I made the choice though because I wanted to go and it was a good move, especially for the kids. But I won’t say it wasn’t difficult living further away from my family. I do agree that if they don’t go, there could be regrets which wouldn’t be healthy for either of them. 🙂 Hugs to you, Jane. xoxo

    1. Hello lovely Lauren and thank you for sharing your loving wisdom. I too feel for PH, as I started married life 6,000 miles away from my family. It taught me so many gifts that I don’t regret it for an instant. Much love flowing to you all, always. <3 xXx <3

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